Paying It Backwards: A Random Act Of Kindness

Have you ever wanted to do something nice for someone? Make their day? Have you ever thought of doing a random act of kindness? Paying it forward? Yesterday morning, while getting my morning ‘Cup of Joe,’ I decided it was time to pay it forward.

While turning into Starbucks parking lot, with thoughts of paying it forward, a Chevy Avalanche chose to cut me off. My first knee jerk reaction was, “You Jerk!” Then another voice steps in, “I guess he was in a hurry for his cup of coffee. Too bad, because I would have bought his morning coffee.” Had he not cut me off, he would have been right behind me, making him the recipient of paying it forward or in this case ‘paying it backwards.’ His loss; the person in the SUV behind me…their gain!

I ordered as usual and anticipated the random act of kindness. “Quad Venti, Two pump, White Chocolate Mocha, non-fat, no-whip please!”

As I ordered my morning pick-me-up, I wondered where this man was off to in such a hurry. Was he on his way to work? Did he think he was the king of the road? Funny how we begin to fill in the blanks, judging others by the automobiles they drive. I was way off from my assumption of him being a professional athlete. Judging by the large vehicle, the professional sport logos, tinted windows and the major college logo on his license plates, I thought for sure he was a pro ball player…he wasn’t. He was indeed in a hurry to get to work and was not fully in the moment of friendly driving.

When I approached the checkout window, the surprise was on me. The Barista asked me to ‘hold on.’ When she returned she explained, “your coffee has been paid for. The guy in front of you paid for it. When we asked if it was a random act of kindness, he replied No, I think I cut him off. Please extend my apologies.” Huh?! The person about to commit a random act of kindness, just got served a random act?! Who cool is that?!

When I explained to the Barista my plan for the morning and the irony of this gesture, we both chuckled as the person I would have  bought a coffee for, bought one for me. Nevertheless, I asked her to keep it going and still chuckling she complied.

The moral of the story is this…people may cut you off…stay on task. Whatever the goal of the day, do not let others sway you from having a good day. In the end, you will be happier and the mundane will not seem so mundane. Who knows…you might be pleasantly surprised as to how things work out.

Stepping into the Canvas ‘Paying it Backwards.’ As we step out today, may we practice random acts of kindness. Whether it be paying it forward or, while at your favorite coffee shop, ‘pay it backwards.’ In the end you will have made someones day, you will feel better and the domino effect can go on for eternity…


From Pilgrim to Warrior

In every one of us there are two sides: the Pilgrim, often lost but continues searching for peace; the Warrior, who is found working as usual but instilling Peace. Many will remain as pilgrims searching for eternal peace and a small few will become Warriors. Some will find truth, many will not. Those who find truth create a new path in life…the path of a Warrior.

After finding myself living in the authentic self, opinions no long matter. The only opinion needed are my own. Six years ago I transitioned from the morning of my life to  afternoon of my life. No longer subscribing to what others told me to do, I began living the way I wanted to. With apparent psycho-somatic responses, anytime I did not live authentically I created physical manifested pain. My mental anguish manifested into physical pain. Once my authentic self surfaced, the pain dissipated.

As I began to clear my thoughts of the 10,000 things, the things that distract us all in our everyday lives, pen met at the paper and the writing began. Not sure how it evolved, but my writings often spoke of two sides to every situation. Often resulting in the pilgrim versus the warrior comparison. What would the pilgrim do in any given situation? Since the pilgrim is lost and often afraid, living in fear anger, hate and anxiety, he often finds himself in difficult situations. What would the Warrior do in a given situation? The Warrior walks in confidence, knowing that Love, Light and Life will illuminate the path before him. While the pilgrim trusts external compasses, the Warrior trusts the internal.

After pen to paper, thoughts to reality, a Warrior was born. Devoted to helping other pilgrims find the path of Warrior, he works night and day in hopes of others taking their first Step into the Canvas.

Stepping into the Canvas as a Warrior, no longer worried what will be or what others will think. Living authentically, lending a hand wherever needed, the Warrior goes wherever needed and arrives right on time.

Giving My All

Giving my all

Nothing in return.

Loving all

No love in return.

Lending a hand

No hand in return.

Emptiness fills my soul;

Thought it was gone, but returned.

Man turns his back on the world

Not knowing why.

Burying the talents

None to see.

Pondering this lesson,

Wondering if I will be he.

Not a chance,

For I will rise.

Rising from this slump

Helping once again.

Be still

Do what is needed.

Your reward is soon to come.

Give your all

Until final hour.

Feeling proud

Do your  best.

Stay  slumped

Best is no longer.


Overcoming sadness.

Change your thought


Everything has changed.

The Average Joe

Being comfortable with one’s own skin can be a challenge. A person either chooses greatness or chooses the path of an average Joe. The average Joe doesn’t subscribe to over achievement or settle for mediocrity. Instead we will find him blending in with majority.

This posting was inspired by local public radio host Ben Merens and his guest David Martin. At Issue with Ben Merens invited David Martin to discuss his bi-weekly humor column and latest book Dare to Be Average.

David opens, “many will not become super stars and it’s ok to be average.” I wanted to call in and ask him, “doesn’t deciding that you are going to stay average therefore place you in a class of above average?” It is my opinion that by stating and accepting average, self-realization thereby makes you above average through not following others whom pressure thinking of greatness. The self-actualized are happy wherever they choose to be. Personally I do not think any one person is average, as we all have are own hidden talents. We simply choose to use them or we don’t.

While the Pilgrims worry about whether they are making the grade or justing getting by and whether the choice is good or bad, the Warrior does not worry about greatness or being average. He merely does what is in his heart, following his dreams and leaving the details for the Universe to fill in. The self-actualized warrior does not worry about pleasing anyone but himself.

Sounds pretty selfish doesn’t it? While many see the warrior as selfish, only worrying about himself, they fail to see the virtuous acts performed on a daily basis: Random acts of kindness, selfless giving of his time and unconditional Love for humanity.  It is through giving that he receives.

Stepping into the Canvas daring to be average, we unknowingly place ourselves into a group of self-mastery. Whether a superstar in the spotlight or an average Joe under the radar, there never really is such a thing as being average. Every person is unique in their own way and every person has a choice to be who they want. Whatever the choice…they are who they are…and have a choice to be whomever they choose…



As a Man Thinketh, So is He

Have you ever wondered what the world would be like if we lived in harmony? What would happen to the suffering? The pain? It is said the world is changed with a single thought, beginning at the level of the self. We cannot change the world on our own, but collectively we can change the face of the earth.


The Warrior is not new to this concept as he has learned with every interaction the effects are felt across the globe. He also knows the laws of nature continue to counterbalance the Love  shared at every meeting. The law of nature strives for balance and if there’s abundance of positivity, there is an equal force of negativity. This does not stop him from spreading peace, for he knows that one day balance will be restored within every human being. When balance is restored at the individual level, balance is restored at the global level.


If every person would sit down for 30 minutes, the world would be at balance at a cost of inhibiting growth. Through our daily actions growth is restored…in death there is new life. Sitting for 30 minutes would surely stop the earth from rotating. The remedy? …do nothing. In doing nothing, balance is restored.


The Warrior, while sharing kindness, maintains his daily activities while remaining vitreous in his daily events. The shift he chose is seeing a life he wants to live and doing so. He achieves life through a single thought.


Exercising the power of thought, he creates a self-world of peace and harmony. While many see it as delusional, he sees it as it was written. Our lives are meant to be whatever we want it to be…why wouldn’t we want to live in happiness?


The suffering, while all around us, does not have to control our lives…only allow self-growth.


Stepping into the Canvas the Warrior co-creates the world around him. Through his thoughts he becomes the painter, his actions the painted, his gratitude the canvas. Take on an attitude of painter, the painted and the canvas itself. We are a part of the collective whole making us one with the canvas.

One with You

I am one with you,

you are one with me.

I smile and you smile back.

I grimace and you grimace back.

I look to the heavens,

and they shine down on me.

I look to God above,

and She looks upon me.


Eyes shut,  I see no longer;

a new world begins.

I hear voices all around me,

mostly self thoughts.

Why have I not seen so clearly before?


I failed to see the darkness…



Out of the Wilderness

Into the forest the warrior flees,
Out of the desert he is freed.
The wind conspires,
The sun shines higher.
Like the due of the morning,
He enters afternoon in glee.
Throughout the days,
Helping those in need.

One hand, two,
Three and you.

No regrets,
No returns.
Only truth,
Remains to be seen.

From flesh,
To Spirit.
Only wholeness,
Remains to be seen.