Does it Really Matter?

We spend our entire lives worrying about details of life, but fail to enjoy these details. Is it possible to leave the worrying to our Creator, leaving only room for fully being in the moment? Be ‘in’ the details of Life, committing to fully participating in the canvas. If all we have is worry on our plate, we have no room for enjoyment.

Years ago, when Ani Po (Warrior) was going to the YMCA on a regular basis, she would often end her workouts with a nice soak in the whirlpool tub. It was like having dessert after her workouts. Doing this on a regular basis, she became part of a regular morning whirlpool group.

One day she sat quietly listening to, nearly, everyone rant about politics and other negative details that cause division within our society. She kept quiet as not to insert any opinion on this matter as to only cause deeper grief with the negative tone that was already infused into her morning routine, while remembering the Toltec wisdom taught by Don Miguel Ruiz, in The Four Agreements. She remembered to never take anything personally, allowing the words of others to pass freely by while never taking hold of the negative words. When Ani Po was asked by one of the others, why she was so silent she merely asked, “Does any of that really matter?”

You could have heard a pin drop if we were in the basketball courts, but being in the whirlpool tub it was unlikely. In any event, the silence was deafening. Then more negativity surfaced at their lips, “It absolutely does matter. The Republicans this and the Democrats that. The kids are wearing their pants on the ground and they look like a bunch of penguins.”

Ani Po just smiled, “Are you Happy?”

One of the others replies “Yes.”

Ani Po, “Then what does any of that matter if you are happy? Your happiness clearly is not dictated by others or whether a young child is wearing his clothes inappropriately…is it?”

“Well of course not.” Spoke another.

Ani Po, “Then why waste so much time worrying about everyone else but enjoyment you get when you are happy?”

At this time everyone is stirring in the whirlpool and began attacking Ani Po with sarcastic words, “Oh great wise teacher, what should we do?” At which time Ani Po politely got up and began walking to the exit when they heckled once more, “Where are you going Ani Po…did we upset you?”

Smiling even brighter, as a bright idea instantaneously pops into her head, she leaps over the wall of her morning whirlpool mates and into the middle of the hot tub. The cannonball was a rating of “Ten” in a standard size pool, but in a small glass enclosure surrounding the whirlpool it was unmeasurable. The water hit the ceiling, covered the glass walls and for a moment it appeared to be a fish tank. The women, unfortunately lost their protected hairdo and the gents remained in shock at what had just happened.

Leaving her mark that morning, the group never forgot the lesson learned that day…Actions speak louder than words. When the women spoke up about their hair being ruined for the day Ani Po spoke, “In that moment of time, when your life flashed before you and your hair become undone…did you think for a second about all the negative details of life?”

As Gabe Berman reminds us in Live Like a Fruit Fly, the lifespan of a fruit fly and the lack of time they may have to worry about the details of life, their only concern is how they are going to spend their ten short days on this planet and how they will maximize their investment of time. Do we invest our time wisely, aligning ourselves with things or events that allow us to feel good? or do we spend countless hours worrying about details and what messages we subscribe to for the day? Gabe ends each chapter with  Live Like a Fruit Fly as a reminder to us all…life is to short to worry about the details.

My dear,
Is it true that your mind is sometimes like a battering Ram
Running all through the city,
Shouting so madly inside and out
About the ten thousand things
That do not matter?

Stepping into the Canvas with intent of living it to the fullest. It is not necessary to be right or wrong, get your way or worry about what everyone else is doing in their days. It is only necessary to enjoy life to the fullest. If we spend our time worrying about the details of life, we have no room for enjoying the details of life. We do not have to speak truth, but let our actions speak for truth. Dare to step in truth…with an occasional cannonball.

Change Your Words, Change Your Life

Every interaction, every moment is an opportunity to either spread Love or Hate and only takes ONE WORD to do it. Depending the word, will determine the vibration of the interaction. Hate vibrates at a lower level, being that of destructive forces. While Love vibrates at the highest of levels, creating only more Love.

In Power vs. Force, David Hawkins discusses different levels of vibration, breaking down our choices into simple, what he refers to as power words. Another idea is that even our words attract more of that we speak. The Secret, discusses the Law of Attraction, teaching us to redirect our thoughts and attracting more of that which we want. Warning us of redirecting our thoughts and words to only use the “Power Words” to get what we want in life. Our thoughts lead to choice of words, which in turn creates the life around us. There is no magic formula to this Law, but will work every time.  Change your thoughts and words, and the world around you will surely return the favor. Enjoy this ancient Korean Poem, as it reminds us to be careful of the words we speak.



Just one uncaring word can spark a fight.

Just one cruel word can shatter a life.

Just one harsh word can sow misunderstanding.

Just one disrespectful word can douse the fervor of love.

Just one kind word can smooth a rocky path.

Just one joyful word can cheer a gloomy day.

Just the right word can lighten an uneasy heart.

Just one affectionate word can show the beauty of the world.

(a centuries old Korean poem, author unknown)

In the Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz discusses Toltec Wisdom at its basics. These four guidelines, if followed, can lead to a happier and more simple life. He discusses four agreements: Be Impeccable with your word, Don’t take anything personally, Don’t make assumptions, Always do you best. While all are beneficial he emphasizes the greatest of these being Impeccable with your Word:

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean.

Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.

Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and Love.

How does one person change the words they speak? Re-align your thoughts to that of Love.

There was a man who was at the top of his game and thought he was pretty special, until one day he met a gypsy who told him that he was very negative and needed to change his ways. “What are you talking about? I am not,” explained this man. She explained, “While you are kind a giving to the people around you, you hurt the ones closest to you. You speak negatively towards your wife, use her as the brunt of your jokes. I know she is strong, but every word, great or small, has an impact on the people around us. The more negative baggage we have to carry, eventually we are weighted down by our own negativity. If all you are sending her is negativity, that is all she will fill her bags with. From this day forward, only speak of Love to her…try it for a week and see how much you speak.”

The gentleman accepted the challenge, thinking it would be easy, but realized how negative he was, as no words came out of his mouth for that week. Re-aligning his thoughts and speech, he began looking for ways to speak in loving kindness to her. He continued this for six months, even in the darkest of times. Six months went by and his wife came to him saying, “I do not know what has changed you, but I Love you now…more than ever before. Thank you for always making me feel good! I Love you!” With this surprise discussion, the man learned a valuable lesson in life. He learned that if he can change with just one person, why not expand this knowledge to more people. He went on to be the most positive person around. Still not perfect, but able to stay positive and learn quickly from the many lessons that present to him.

Another story is of a homeless person begging for change, but is not meeting his daily quota to buy food at the end of the day. Being blind, he cannot do anything but sit there and wait for the sounds of money hitting his tin can.

One day a woman, walking by, wrote something on his sign and walked away. That day the man got more in one day then he had in a whole month. What did this woman do? Let’s watch this great video by Purplefeather, and see the power of words in action…


Stepping into the Canvas re-aligning our thoughts, changing our words. Our thoughts control our actions and words. Whatever our thoughts will be our words. If they align with negativity we emit negativity.  Aligning with only positive thoughts, actions will automatically become that of positivity. Walking in positive thoughts, sharing only that of Love. “Change your words, Change your Life.”

Try it just for a week…see what happens…