Positive Living

While it is true Positive cannot exist without negative, we do not have to remain in negative. Too often we fall victim to the trap of negativity around us and remain in self-pity. Suffering will always exist, but does not mean we have to dwell in negativity. It is as easy as changing our thoughts from negative to positive – similar to that of a light switch. Throw the switch now.

Too often We hear positive messages and immediately think, “yeah if you only knew my situation.” While it is true we do not know what another is experiencing, we can have compassion for them. At the same time they do not know what we are going through. A relative posted on Facebook, “If we threw all of our troubles into a pile and asked to pick a problem from the bucket we surely would pick our own, once viewing the others problems.”

Our perception dictates how we see the world around us. We can choose to see negativity or positivity that surrounds us daily. An example of this is our daily weather report. One network toots rain and gloom for the next few days, while the other boasts sunny and beautiful. Clearly it is one perception versus the other. I often will ask patients for the weather report, engaging in small talk, and depending on the network they watch or even their own perception of how the days will unfold will tell me how their perception of the day will be.

Further, their thoughts can influence my thoughts if I allow them too. If I choose to allow this, I too fall victim to negativity. Choose to listen only to the Positive weather report for that perception or reality we want to live. This is not living in a false belief system, for either way we look at things is correct….I merely choose positive side of things or as Carlos Castaneda discusses “The Active Side of Infinity.”

Where do you want to align?

Losing Everything

Expanding on the lessons of Ron and the lesson of losing what we already have…

As humans we attach ourselves to the things around us, such as people and material things. It is acceptable to attach to these things, but only for a moment. Eventually we will all have to let go of what we have.

Yesterday, when finishing up with a Cancer Patient, I sat with her and discussed the possibilities of her losing her hair. She was very distraught over this topic and was hopeful that she would not lose her hair, as so many people go through. Being treated for Brain Cancer, she is very likely to lose most or all of her hair. To her this meant losing everything.

Thinking back to Ron’s lesson of letting go of what we have or enjoying it while it is there, then eventually letting it go. For me losing hair is not an issue as I am follicularly challenged, allowing me to see the beauty of those around me with or without hair. I often tell people, “The ideal world where everyone finds happiness, is where everyone is bald and ungroomed armpits.” We live in a society dictating how we should be perceived and if we do not fit the painted picture, we are not accepted or are isolated out of fear of saying the wrong thing. We are all individuals who want to be Loved…nothing more, nothing less.

When I told this patient about her options, I highly recommended her shaving her head as soon as she noticed hair coming out. Speaking from experience, it is a psychological transformation when we have the control of our destiny. Why not take control of your hair loss?

She replied, “You mean I should shave all my hair off?” I smiled, “No, only your head.” We both laughed as we both pictured each other with a body filled with hair.