Learning from one another, we are complementing each other~Ani Po

Often in relationships there is one or both who fail to recognize the gift before them. The gift of partnership, cherishing every moment. Failing to see, they choose the blame game…blaming the other for failures or shortcomings. One chooses to make things right, no matter the cost, while the other chooses neutrality to past beliefs…regardless of attachment to being right.

A young couple, while opposite in so many ways, often wonders what they have in common. With nothing in common they wonder how will this relationship continue. What they fail to see is their desire of learning from each other. Ebbing and flowing, learning from each other best and worst ways of doing things.

While neither shows interest in the others hobbies or activities, they come together with an understanding of their own individuality. How can two people remain as individuals whilst remaining a couple? Very simple. Both identify the other as an person who matters and importance of opinions. While not always in agreement, they choose to discuss their differences until they agree. In doing so, they are learning and complementing one another.

Funny example of complementing one another: one of the people who is very much in need of touch and affirmation, reads the 5 levels of attachment by Don Miguel Ruiz Jr., while the other person, whom is analytical and lacks need for touch or affirmation, reads the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman.  While both are geniuses in their own areas of “love languages,” they lack in other areas. This is where the complementing comes in. Both are able to see the needs of the other and learn and grow from each other. One learns how to Love, while the other learns how to detach from the day-to-day events.

With a better understanding of the other, they have a better understanding of the self. Through self-analysis, there is a couple analysis. What one discovers the other gains and vice versa.

Stepping into the Canvas with a better understanding of the next. Whether in relationships or in random meetings, we have the ability to learn from one another. In learning we are growing, in growing we are expanding our love out into the world.